There is a notion that engaging in sexual denial means being devoid of sensation. Being robbed of stimulus. Nothing could be further from the truth. Denial involves the removal of one very specific sensation. You might take away the climactic experience of orgasm, but you are increasing the volume on a variety of other sensations and experiences.
I am a bear with a dad bod, firmly in the second half of life. While there are practical realities to that, that does not mean there are limitations—nor does it mean I’m not sexy, apparently. I bring all of me to the table, my experiences and my insights and a confidence that I lacked in my youth. That is an incredibly solid foundation from which to be negotiating a kinky relationship today.